Welcome to Self Care Stories, a blog series showcasing how different people take care of themselves around the world. In our lives, we often forget to prioritize our own well-being. We hope that by reading these stories, you feel inspired to build your own self-care routines because your own care is important.


Meet Wen!

What's your background?

I am a 25 year old graduate student studying marriage and family therapy and professional counseling who lives in California in the United States. I am a competitive ballroom and Latin dancer and love to read books.

What's your definition of self-care or what does self-care mean to you?

I am a visual person so I think of self-care as the spokes on a wheel. We need different types of self-care in our lives to feel balanced enough to take care of our lives. The five types of self-care I need is my physical, mental, social, spiritual, and emotional self-care. Without all these different types to take care of myself, I feel like the wheel that supports my life would fall apart. Keep in mind that I do not spend hours in each category. It can be as simple as spending thirty seconds saying hi to my barista or my neighborhood grocer. Instead of taking the elevator to work, I can take the stairs to fulfill some of my physical self-care.

Tell me your story. How do you practice self-care in your life?

I am a competitive ballroom dancer so I have a dance partner who I see five times a week. Each day, I go to the dance studio and dance with my partner. When I’m stressed out, dancing helps distract me from what was on my mind. If that does not work, I just share what’s on my mind and we support each other.

What makes taking care of yourself so important to you?

I’m an introvert so my safe place is always at home. Though if I stay at home too much, I do not feel good and feel trapped from going outside. I understand that if I withdraw too much, I am not really taking care of myself. My self-care gives me purpose to go out and engage with the world. 

If you had advice to give someone else on practicing self-care, what would it be?

Self-care is like building muscle. It takes small steps towards the goal that you want in life. If you try to add too much weight at once, you’ll fail. It is the same idea as self-care. Start small and then you will continue to build upon that success. After a while, you’ll build enough experience to tackle larger goals. Do not give up. I believe in you!

This series was created in collaboration with Self Caid. To find out more information on how to build a self-care routine, check out them out here.

Jed Chun