Alex Ly, LMFT

Sex/Gender: Male
Pronouns: He / Him
Ethnicity: Chinese

It never feels like you are good enough. You go home for a holiday, like Chinese new year and all you hear is criticism and disapproval even though you are successful.  Asking for what you want means you must be selfish. You don’t know how to deal with your family dynamics – people loyal to the family even when they don’t want to be there.

With your success has come a lot of stress. You created this life, following the expectations of your family and culture but you are still feeling lost and directionless. All you do is work all day, make money yet you don’t really know what you want anymore. It’s all overwhelming.

It’s impacting your relationship. You feel guilt when you try to put yourself first. The guilt grows into anxiety as you try to make everyone happy. Your partner doesn’t feel supported which leaves you feelings down and once again, like you aren’t good enough. You feel awful about yourself and you wish you could just stop feeling so bad. Anxiety has gotten in the way of everything.

You can’t just put your head down and keep working. You want to feel different, to be confident to handle your relationships, and to actually like yourself without the overwhelm. You need someone to help you who truly understands your culture, the family dynamics and who can help you navigate the relationships without guilt and shame.

As an Asian American Therapist, I understand all of this. I understand what its like to be stuck in the same rotten messages handed by your parents about who you are and how you should navigate the world. You want someone who understands your cultural background and can help you navigate your life in a way that makes sense to your identity.  You want someone who understands your cultural background and can help you navigate your life in a way that makes sense to your identity. You may be looking for therapists but they are all white, and you doubt that they “get it.”

My clients get amazing results from therapy. You’ll be able to navigate the conflicts wiht your family without shame, guilt or fear. You will be able to assert myself in my life and be more real with other people. You will be less driven by guilt, shame, and fear and more by your desires and values. If you are interested in living your life free from shame and guilt, while honoring yourself and your family, contact me today for a free 15-minute consultation to learn more.

License Number: LMFT130949
License State: California
Practice Information
Types of Insurance Accepted: Out of Network, Private Pay
Fremont, California, United States
Therapy Offered
In Person Therapy, Telehealth/Teletherapy
Types of Therapy
Attachment-based/Relational Therapy, Brainspotting, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Humanistic, Trauma-Focused, Narrative Therapy, Integrative
Trauma and PTSD, Self Esteem, Stress, Spirituality, Anxiety, Sexual Addiction, Relationship Issues, Racial Identity, Codependency, Depression
Last modified: November 20, 2023

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